Breaking up is hard to do....

It's strange but weirdly we have a lot of friends right now who are suffering with the pain of breaking up their relationships and Clare has spent a lot of time recently trying to comfort different people who are going through the same thing Of course it's impossible to take that pain away. We all know what it feels like and it totally sucks. Even when you're the one doing the breaking up it still hurts to let go of someone you have cared for and loved. You have to find strength to get through it. Buddhists say that your heart is meant to be broken, that's how it opens, and it's painful but true. In a weird way we all have to go through it at some point and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I am very philosophical in my belief that everything happens for a reason, and that we are always right where we need to be to learn whatever it is we need to.
Sometimes when a lot of difficult and painful things are going on in your life, it can be to distract us while something amazing is changing or being born in us. It's just hard to recognise it at the time But I always believe that something is always working for our higher good in our lives and that the universe if conspiring to help us learn and grow and that makes it easier to get through the tough times.
Who wants to settle for an easy life - far better to jump and take risks and get your heart broken and feel raw and vulnerable, it's what we're here for I think. To feel everything, the good and the bad. Risk is the currency of the Gods and always yields the biggest rewards in life. “To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”
In breakups the two things you need are time and friends. Time is the biggest healer - it's ironic that it takes a couple of seconds to say Hello, but it can take such a long time to say Goodbye and no matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal, you’ll never get through it without your friends. That's when you need them most which is why it's so important to be there for them when they need you. That's truly what friends are for.
We surrounded ourselves with friends again this weekend. Friday night, as Alex is leaving this week to go back to London, Clare threw a games night with some of his favourite people in LA and it was fantastic although for the first time his team lost with Paul, Clare, Matthew Rhys, gorgeous Nicola Carson and Tasa Fontaine (with her great dane puppy Sam) being beaten by three points by Emma Forrest, Osa, Anna Friel, Sean Maguire. Steve Shaw, Sadie and Joe Cross. Then on Saturday night we went to our favourite place in the world for dinner with Simon and beautiful Mish, Ryan and Randy and the absolutely gorgeous, sweet, lovely Cheryl Cole who has to be just one of the nicest girls you could ever possibly meet. It was two fantastic evenings in a row and we could not have had a nicer time with nicer people. Fabulous friends forever.....